Now that the celebration of Match Day is over, we wanted to share some survival tips from Hannah Pye as you start contemplating the next phase in your journey. We especially love Tip #4 and want to remind everyone that the AMA Alliance is a great place to start when looking for a supportive community! Find out about membership options and benefits–including print copies of Physician Family!
As much as you hear about residency from people who have experienced it, there’s nothing that can truly prepare you for the ins and outs of being married to a resident. Long days, weekend shifts, and overnight rotations are all part of the package. Throw in the extra program expectations like research, journal club, wellness events, and studying at home to keep up, and it feels like you will never see your spouse or partner again. Take heart! You will see them again. It will get better in three to seven years, when they are done with training. But what do we do to survive in the meantime?
I survived three years of residency with my spouse, and we are heading into another four years of residency this summer as he retrains into another specialty. Here are my top five tips for spouse survival during medical residency.
“Your Tribe is Your Vibe” By Erin Allen In my post-medical-training-years reinvention of myself I have become a fitness instructor for Fit4Mom. Fit4Mom is a business that provides workout classes for moms with their kiddos in the stroller with franchises all over the United States. It’s not only a workout class, but a community of […] Continue reading →
Medical Marriage Q&A: Developing Emotional Connection By Kim Blackham (Editor’s Note: In this week’s post, Marriage and Family Therapist and medical spouse Kim Blackham responds to a reader’s question from her September post on medical marriage.) Q: We have been married 16 years, have three kids, and have been in this medical life for 12 […] Continue reading →
Medical Marriage Q & A By Kim Blackham When my husband began applying for general surgery residency programs nine years ago, the concept of Facebook hadn’t even been conceived. We were still utilizing old-school dial-up internet, and much time wasn’t spent online because we had to disconnect in order to make phone calls. The social […] Continue reading →
Women in Medicine Q&A Featuring Amy Paré (Editor’s Note: September is Women in Medicine month and to celebrate this topic and piggyback on last week’s post about balance, we are featuring a remarkable woman who is also a physician, a mom and a medical spouse on the blog this week. To read more Q&As from […] Continue reading →
Be Flexible and Avoid Resentment by Donna Baver Rovito Recently, a young intern’s wife expressed her frustration and despair to her new resident husband, during the fifth week of his internship, telling him that residency is so much harder than she’d expected, and that it’s difficult for her to handle their children on her own […] Continue reading →